Learn how to Give and Receive
“If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who
would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?” Stephen
Levine
Accepting and Giving Compliments
Do you love compliments, or do you get uncomfortable when you get them? Do
you immediately deny the compliment?
“Gee, that dress looks good on you.”
“Oh, this old rag.”
“I really like that poem your wrote.”
“ Really, do you think I should change any of it?”
When a person gives you a compliment. A simple thank you is in order.
“You look great in blue, it really brings out your eyes.”
“Thank you.”
“I love that dressing you put on the salad.”
“Thank you. My grandmother taught me how to make that.”
See, how truly easy that is. It’s simple.
Do you take time to give compliments?
The next time you see something you like, don’t just think it. Say it!
Think about the people in your life that readily give compliments. Think about
deep down how it makes you feel good (when you are not in denial toward the
compliment). Think about how when someone notices and remarks on how well
you are doing at your job, how well you did on a test, or how great you made a
dinner.
Don’t withhold compliments. When you think them, tell the person.
If it is not normal for you to think good things about others do stop and look. Is
there something that you can honestly say that is positive to another person? Say
it. It doesn’t bite back. It might feel unnatural at first, but after a few trials, you
will see that sparkle in someone’s eyes. You will see your friends, and your
children strive to do better for you. All because of a simple few words that you
took the time to say something complimentary.
How about giving and receiving? Is it hard for you to accept a gift?
Do you say, “Oh, you shouldn’t have?”
How about, “Thank you. This is perfect, how very thoughtful of you to think of
me.”
Most people love to give. It makes them feel good to give. To chastise them for
giving, even when you are doing it out of habit is like throwing cold water into
someone’s face.
Be gracious, enjoy being cared about, and accept the gift. Life is good!
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How about the “buts” in life? You did a good job, but……
Your hair looks nice, but…….
I like that color, but……
“Buts,” can make people cringe at what is coming next and totally wipe out the
compliment that you just gave.
You can use “but” when the criticism is constructive. How can you tell if your
criticism is constructive or destructive? It’s easy. If you cannot help or are not
willing to help with the solution, then it is not constructive criticism.
“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way,
when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.”
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