Be honest with yourself.

Be honest with yourself. Lies will always catch up to you and break down your self-existence. When you accept lies, your feelings and growth are steered in a direction different from where you need. The feelings you would have had in the light of the truth do not exist. Without these feelings, your self will not grow to the next place in your life it needs to be. The truth is what brings back yourself. Let truth soak your soul, it deserves it. It is in truth where your self flourishes.

If you have doubts about the healing power of truth, try the following exercise. When you feel bad, tell people you feel good; and when you feel good, tell people you feel bad. Whatever feeling you have, tell the opposite: joy—hurt, excited—tired, hate— love, depressed—happy, guilty—innocent, etcetera. Remember to follow your feelings so that if one changes after you speak it, you speak dishonestly about the new feeling. Try this exercise for three days, and do not tell anyone what you are doing until you are done.

I really would not recommend the above exercise unless you have serious doubts about the healing effects of truth. If you do have serious doubts, you probably live somewhat dishonesty anyhow, so you would not experience much of a change with the exercise. An honest person would feel hurt from the exercise, whereas a dishonest person may be amused at how "strong" he appears to be. Because the dishonest person is simply acting how he was acting before the exercise, he does not lose as much as the honest person. The honest person experiences a loss of something highly valued to himself: honesty. The exercise may generate negative responses from people who have potential to love you. It may generate positive or neutral responses from people who are not capable of loving you.

Try the same experiment as above except now be honest with all your feelings. I recommend this exercise for everyone. Every time you feel a good or bad feeling, tell the person what it is. The dishonest person will now feel more hurt than the ho nest person because the dishonest person experiences the most loss in this exercise: losing dishonesty. If you are around people who love you, then you will see mostly a positive response. If you are around people who do not care for you, that is exactly what you will see. This reality may be painful, but it is important information to know so that you can grow and make your life better. It may help you face a weakness, desperation, or part of yourself that you have not been willing to face. In the above experiments you can speak truth or lies of your opinions and beliefs (which are wielded by your feelings anyhow) to create similar effects as feelings, but perhaps not as intense. 

You gain power in being truthful to yourself. It allows you to be free to continually manifest the spirit of yourself. You are also enabled to perceive other people‟s true selves. Since you are truthful with your own feelings, you will be able to see when and how others fail in that truthfulness. You will know this from the feelings you have while with another person. You feel something is not quite right or feel somewhat confused when he is not being himself.

When you hold back a present feeling, denying its existence, you interfere with your perceptual process. This interference occurs even if you have been honest with yourself up until the present dishonesty. The current you is not being allowed to be fully there to integrate present situations. If a part of you which you cannot face is also in someone else, you will not be able to see that whole other person. You must deny this part in him because seeing what you deny in yourself in him is too close to what you cannot face in yourself.